Civilization is in the beginning stages of a massive paradigm shift from a rigid and role-based society to one that is fluid. Fluidity in roles impacts our lives in every aspect. We are learning to be fluid in our careers, moving through experiences but following passion. Almost all the great discoveries of humankind were made by someone who was fluid, moving from one career/skill/focus to another. A key first step any individual makes to finding themselves is by rejecting a role they were given. They may have told you to be a doctor, a lawyer, a writer, a farmer, but it was when you say no and find your own path that you find success and happiness.
The first role we are given, even before we are born is gender. Unfortunately, in the role-based paradigm, gender is the third rail. Forty percent of homeless teens are kids who played with gender and were abandoned. But fortunately, in the fluid paradigm, people are finding tremendous success, love and happiness through brave explorations across gender border lines.
Our mission is to accelerate this paradigm shift, making it safe, fun and vibrant for everyone to take part in. This might be as a parent, supporting your baby who is growing to be someone authentic, aware and enlightened. This might be as a sister realizing her brother is finding his femininity. You may be the wife or boyfriend or girlfriend of someone who loves you very much and is beginning to know themselves better through gender fluidity. Our mission is to help everyone understand, support and love the people who are brave enough to find themselves.
and Her Thriving Story on Being Herself
We Fluidity.Love are so glad to have the chance to interview fashion model Peta Nitka from Czech Republic. She is the First Ever Gender-Neutral Model in Africa and India. We are so happy to bring her beautiful story to you.
Femininity is so complex, abstract and beautiful. There are so many ways to get started expressing yourself as a girl. This is just the starter kit send us your own suggestions!!
We Will Never Fit In Boxes Again
HumanEditorial note: If you haven't yet come across Adore Delano, you could start by reading these recent articles from Vice and Billboard , then watch their Youtube Videos, follow them on Instagram and I'm sorry not sorry, you'll be obsessed. Huge thank you to Aisha [link] and Michelle [link] in particular for being so generous with their time in the interview process.
Adore isn't just another emerging star.
In the last 6 months, Adore has become an icon for the fluidity movement. Adore will simply not be put in a box. Adore is more than YouTuber, not just a drag star, not a boy, not a girl - find a box and you'll find Adore won't fit in it. Even Adore's most devoted fans are unsure of which pronouns to use and when. Adore's YouTube channel is still named "DannyNoriega", Adore's boy name, though the recent video titles on that channel present her name as Adore Delano. Adore presents as a boy and a girl as she and he and they please. Fixing a pronoun just won't do.
We are pleased to have the chance to talk and had a conversation with the confident August Aiden.
August Aiden was born in 1994, assigned biologically as female from Rhode Island. However he never felt like a woman or feminine from the inside since such a young age. He is now living in Los Angeles, California.
We are lucky to have the chance to interview a fabulous, beautiful drag queen Miss Anne Dromeda.
"My name is Anne Dromeda and I'm out of this world!"
Miss Anne Dromeda (her male name: Scott) is a drag queen based in Los Angeles, California. Scott identifies himself as a gay male that performs in drag as a hobby. He's happy that all his friends, parents, and coworkers all know and support him. His mom comes to almost every one of his shows, and his coworkers come out from time to time. "I'm lucky to live in Los Angeles and in a gay friendly community and workplace."
Fluidity.Love's Immersive Workshops Will Train Businesses And Individuals To Be Ready.
If you are working in the HR department of your company, working in diversity or education, are in any position of leadership at your organization, are a coach, or if you have teenagers at home, you'll want to pay attention to what follows as it will solve your existing adaptive issues on gender fluidity. What we'll break down with data is that many millions of people around the world now identify as gender fluid, non binary or transgender. They are your customers, your clients and your co-workers. We also break down how much evidence there is that companies and schools today are not prepared for today's world - leading to unnecessary pain, legal and PR problems as well as missed opportunities to create genuine and meaningful connections.
It's not hard to understand how to be sweet, genuine, empathetic and understanding to gender non conforming people. We provide the safe space to understand, ask questions, be clumsy without penalty to be elegant and well informed in the real world.
This is scheduled as a 2 hour online immersive workshop that includes training, role playing scenarios, time for questions and an exam.
For many men, the biggest barrier to gender fluidity is the threat of losing the woman that they love. Gender orientation is so easy to confuse with sexual orientation, and the only narrative that mainstream culture has is Transparent . We have generally accepted that you either are gay or are not gay, and if you think about being a girl than you should just accept you are gay. That barrier kept me from being honest and open about who I actually was. I never had a crush on a guy, never fell in love with a guy. I always wanted to be around women.
I lived for nearly 11 years in fear of telling my wife about myself. I thought she was going to find it to be a turn off and that she would lose all respect for me. I felt that if she ever discovered this about me it would risk the marriage. We have kids, our life together is my life, I care about my commitment to them more than the universe.
I missed SO many years from a silly fear. But, I was and am lucky. The fears I had were not invalid to have - there are women who can not make the leap and it does lead to divorce and great tragedy - the same type of tragedy that happens to teens who are abandoned. I've tried to break down the larger characteristics you can look at and ways to move very safely in a sunny, loving way to understanding each other.
We spoke to Daria Jane, a 19-year old student in Romania, on thriving and being herself.
How amazing is Daria?
Daria Ioana Bulzan, known as Daria Jane from YouTube is 19 and studies Marketing at Bucharest's Business University. She grew up in Botosani, a small town in Romania, and, at just 11, she moved to the capital, Bucharest, to join a ballet school. At 14, Daria decided to join the acting high school where she graduated from.
"I Fought For Myself, But Was Surrounded by Good People"
How beautiful of Daria's mom?
Who helped you the most to become who you are today?
"Believe it or not, I am the person who helped me the most to become myself, because I find it hard nowadays to rely on others... even though my mother is more than a best friend and we have a special relationship. She helped me a lot as well, morally and even financially at the beginning of my transition. I can mention my friends too, they were very supportive as well. I may say I was surrounded by good people.
I only grew up with my mother, and as I said, she helped me a lot and loves me unconditionally. I'm her only child at the end of the day. My relatives were ok too. I can't remember any awful moments, my family didn't really make it that big of a deal."
"I'm more sure of who I am now than ever"
How cute is this couple?
When asked if she had to fight for who she is, Daria doesn't sugar-coat the process but also sees the beauty and power in her achievement:
Tricky and tough question. I will say yes though, because in my case, we're talking about transitioning. There is a journey, more-like a"hell of a ride." I have been through cringey and embarrassing moments (a lot of those), surgeries, debates, insults, bullying... and yet here I am, just being me. I think it's a mental "transition" as well, because it made me the strong person I am today. I don't regret anything though, because I'm a strong believer that everything happens for a reason. I learned a lot of lessons throughout my journey. Having said that, I'm more sure of who I am than ever.
"I want to show the world that trans people can be rational/sane"
How charming is this look?
Regarding her fans on social media, Daria is very level-headed and has a crystal clear mind as to what she wants to accomplish through her platform and how:
"I don't see them as fans, since I'm not a popular person. I'm just expressing my views in general. that may be highly controversial or not, and I don't aspire to get "more fans", but to get more real (if that makes any sense). I want to show the world that trans people can be rational/sane. And yes, I'm down to speak at events although there aren't many. About community hmm... I'm not very connected to the people of the trans community, or LGBT in general. I'm surrounded by straight non-trans people all the time and I love it. Believe it or not, I feel like I can forget about this aspect of my life, I try to do what I would've done if I'd been a biologically born woman and focus on my career and my goals. I really don't like to emphasize the fact that I'm trans (it's no secret, but it's no pride either), and this way helped me live normally in a society where these things are often seen as horrible and very controversial."
Daria's Transition Timeline Video
Sexy, Sophisticated, Daria has the look
Future World Leader
This is your future boss
Fun, Real, Honest and Genuine
Showing the world by example
Changing the World by Being True
Life can be beautiful and fun
A City Girl
Daria's Thoughts on the Struggles in the LGBT Community
This is written for all the millions of men in committed relationships stuck playing a role that prohibits them from finding themselves. I would love to share other's tips and thoughts who have achieved gender fluid marriage please email me firstname.lastname@example.org or DM us on social accounts
I lived 10 years married, hiding from myself and from her. Well, I didn't exactly hide from myself, I explored being feminine though porn. But it was lonely, based in fear and shame. I was sure that she would at best lose respect for me if we knew. I was wrong about it all.
Today I live as a gender fluid person with her in a relationship that is roughly 100x stronger, sexier, deeper, more loving, satisfying and energizing. She bought me my first high heels!!! We buy lingerie and super sexy dresses for each other and ourselves. We have kids. We have sex like we are 18 (we are in our late 30s). Finding yourself is magical but being found and finding each other puts a multiplier effect on magic. Everything in life goes better, is more fun and successful when you get to operate off of that. We are monogamous.
What I lay out below is written as directions. To be honest, that's my hope - that with this effort will begin the effort that ends up unlocking 100 million couples from fear and gives them the gift of each other.
Yoga, Spin, Barre, Pilates are your Gateway to Sunny, Loving Support
You may be one of millions of people around the world who is secretly gender fluid. Maybe you live with your parents, you are married and live with your wife and kids or you live alone but in an general environment which has no idea of who you truly are.
It is SO important to be safe. Risking talking to your parents or family before they (and you) are ready often leads to catastrophe for people. I want you to be as careful as you can so that you can do this is in a way that is sunny, safe, loving and supportive. I also want you to find ways to find and express you are because honestly without finding ourselves and being ourselves we can not find success and happiness at the level the universe intended for us.
The dangers of a shared cave and how to avoid the pitfall and be your true self
This has been a really big year for me. After 11 years, I finally told my wife about my gender identity. How I have identified as a girl since I can remember. How I have been dressing in a locked bathroom in the nights, on every business trip. I told my kids about it, and their friends. I told my clients, friends, family and employees about it. Soon an article will come out that resolves the final layer of just being fully public about it. I've written and will write a lot about that.
The same weekend I first told my wife, after she had a chance to understand it, and we had a chance to talk through it all - i had an immediate feeling of having come out of a cave. The RELIEF!!!!!!!! OMG omg omg. The FUN!!!!!!!!!! We had so much love between us, so much intimacy, honesty in our relationship and now we could meet each other all over again. Her understanding how much of what she had always loved was already me as a girl but now without covering. OMG
So, you think, coming out is like coming out of a cave.
But it is *not* a single cave.
Rassellino is an amazing person, we are so proud to be able to tell her story. Rassellino and I had such a deep connection during our interview process that it will be likely that this post is the first of many collaborations together.
Cess Rey is a gorgeous brave soul who is expressing herself bravely and with pride. She lives in Davao City. If you haven't read our article on Argie Pabroa who is also there, we adore our presence there.
Her beautiful Mom was the one that truly gave Cess her first support to express true self.
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As I've personally come out to my family and friends I've been tracking, sorting and organizing the types of responses that I've gotten myself. I've also been interviewing and talking to hundreds of people who identify as trans or gender fluid and collecting all that feedback as well.
Some of the reactions that I've gotten have just been so beautiful and wonderful it doubles my own energy and triples the connection that I feel to that person. Other reactions leave you feeling as confused as the person you told, totally unsure what they actually think about it and mildly wishing you hadn't ever told them. Of course, the worst is where the reaction is so bad or awkward that it plunges you into dysphoria.
Being gender fluid, trans or gender non conforming is confusing.
It turns out there is one very simple framework that you can use mentally to be not only supportive, but adorable.